On Being Authentic

I’ve always felt kind of selfish if I my put my needs first.  I tend to take care of everyone else first and then myself last.  You know, the caretaker.

I’m sure many of you can relate.

The first thing that struck me on this video clip, is how she says that being that person is probably inauthentic.

WOW. 

Think about it.  Yes, we do these things out of love for other people, but we probably grumble to ourselves how we’re always doing things for everyone else and never have time for ourselves.

Sound familiar?  

Then the woman goes on to say that we are the “representation of God” (or whatever your Higher Power is named) in our lives.

Double WOW.  

Think hard about that one.

I hope you enjoy the clip.

Thank you, Great Spirit.

We Are Finite

At what age did you realize you were not immortal?

How did you react to that discovery?

Thinking back, I believe I discovered immortality at an early age.  My grandpa died when I was around 4 or 5 and I really don’t have any memories of the experience or it being traumatic to me.  Throughout my childhood, though, I always had nightmares about his grave and it being dug up.  I can remember being in my parent’s car and not even being able to look at any cemetery we drove past.  Cemeteries and death scared me so much.

My mom later told me they didn’t bring me to my grandpa’s funeral because they thought I was too young.  After hearing about my fears she thought maybe that was a mistake.

My sons lost two of their uncles at a young age and I brought them to both their funerals due to my experience.  But I’m also not one to shield my children from the realities of life.

As a preteen, my favorite and very much loved uncle, was shot and subsequently paralyzed.  We took care of him in our home, having a hospital bed and in-home nurse during the week.  It was definitely a learning experience for me and a stressful time for our family.

My uncle was in and out of the hospital with pneumonia, infections and various problems.  It was difficult for me to go to the hospital to visit him because of all the sounds, smells and things I saw there.  And it became such a routine kind of event because he was in and out so much.  I just always knew he was in the hospital and would be home soon.

The last time he went into the hospital with pneumonia, we received a call during the night that he has passed away.   Because this had become “normal” and I hated the hospital, I hadn’t visited him during that stay.  And did I have extreme guilt and remorse after he died.  I took his death extremely hard and at that age I learned not to take life for granted and to tell the people in your life how much you love them.

Often.

And take time for people. 

Because you never know when it might be the last time you have together.

value of a moment

Death has brushed my life many times having lost both my parents, my closest aunts, who I spent a lot of time with and feel good for that, and most recently, my younger brother.

Realizing my own immortality and of those I love is rock solid in my mind.  As I age, it hits home even more, especially after having children of my own.

I’ve learned to appreciate the now, for that’s all that’s guaranteed.   Life is finite and we are finite creatures.

Thank you, Great Spirit.     

This post is in response to the daily prompt from The Daily Post.

Sunday Stealing {Let’s Talk Travel}

Let’s Talk Travel Meme

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Ok let’s talk travel, do you like to travel?   Yes, but I don’t do it often enough.

Where have you been?  Just a few states and Mexico.

Next place you want to go?   I’d just like to get away for just a night at this point.

What is something you MUST take with you when you travel?  Clothes.

How do you like to travel? (mode of transportation)  I like road trips by car.

With someone, or alone?  It’s more fun with someone.

Do you dance in your car when there are other people with you?  Depends on who it is.

If you’re quiet what does it mean?  Usually just means I’m tired and/or crabby.

Favorite scent?   While traveling?  I know what’s NOT my favorite scent!

Favorite store?  Any place I can buy fun, pretty things.

Say you wanted coffee.. what kind is your favorite?  I like just a plain latte or breve.

Favorite kind of pizza?  Cheese or veggie.

Do you get embarrassed easily?  Very easily.

Do you mind people asking you personal questions?  Depends again on who it is.

You have a tank of gas, $50, and the day off… what do you do?  A day off with no kids?  I ‘d go shopping.

Favorite tv show?  Once Upon A Time, since it’s the only show I consistently watch.

Song you turn the volume up all the way to listen to?   There are a lot of “oldies” from the 80’s and 90’s that I do that with.  Brings me back in time.

Something you keep in your car?  Kleenex.

 Highlight of your day?  If I get some time alone.

 Something you do everyday that you wish you didn’t have to do?  Make meals.

Do you mind if people just show up at your house unannounced?   Yes, because I’m usually in either my PJs or some stupid-looking comfy clothes and I probably haven’t showered.

What do you do when you disagree with someone?  Again, it depends on who it is and what the disagreement is about. 

Do you enjoy rain?   I love when it rains. 
Thank you, Great Spirit.

Saturday 9 {The Power of Love}

The Power of Love

Welcome to Saturday: 9. What we’ve committed to our readers is that we will post 9 questions every Saturday. Sometimes the post will have a theme, and at other times the questions will be totally unrelated. Those weeks we do “random questions,” so-to-speak. We encourage you to visit other participants posts and leave a comment. Because we don’t have any rules, it is your choice. We hate rules. We love memes, however, and here is today’s meme!

Saturday 9: The Power of Love (1985)

Unfamiliar with this week’s tune? Hear it here.

1) In this song, Huey explains that you don’t need a credit card to find love. What’s the last thing you charged?   I don’t use the ol’ credit card anymore.  Trying to pay it off.

2) This song was written for Back to the Future. At the beginning of the movie, hero Marty McFly traveled around town on his skateboard. Are you good on a skateboard?  Never tried one.  Just wasn’t a “thing” when I was a kid.

3) Huey sings lead and his backup group is The News. Was the most recent news you heard bad or good?  I just read a local story about a girl running a race who stopped to pick up another runner from another team after she injured her knee badly.  She carried the injured girl across the finish line after a bunch of other runners just ran past her.  I love reading stories like that. 

4) Huey’s mother, Maria, was born in Poland. Who is the first member of your family to be born in the US of A?  On my dad’s side, it was my dad.  My grandpa came over from Greece.  Think it probably goes a long way back on my mom’s side.

5) Brainy Huey got a perfect score on the math portion of the SAT. Did you take the SAT? How did you do?  I think I did but I don’t even remember for sure much less remember the score.

6) This song also hit #1 in Australia, where anzac biscuits are popular. To make them (the recipe is here) you need coconut. Do you have any coconut in your home right now?  I have coconut oil and maybe some grated coconut but not a whole coconut.

7) Thinking of dessert, would you rather have cookies, cake, pie, ice cream or frozen yogurt?  If it’s a homemade cookie, I’ll take that.

8) We’re definitely into autumn now. What will you remember most about Summer 2014?  Our trip to St. Louis.

9) Tell us your superhero name, as determined by the color of your shirt and an item directly to your right. For example, Sam fights crime as The Gold Kleenex Box!  Dawn fights crime as The Gray Desk Calendar.  Meh…

Thank you, Great Spirit.

Sunday Stealing {Random Questions}

[Random Questions]

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. Here we will steal all types of memes from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent memes. You may have heard of the expression, “honor amongst thieves”. In that age-old tradition, we try to credit the blog that we stole it from. We also provide a link to the victim’s meme in our “Previous Victims” widget. (It’s our way of saying “Thanks!”) Sometimes we edit the original meme, to make it more relevant to our global players, to challenge our players, to select the best questions, or simply to make it less repetitive from this new meme or recently asked questions from a previously featured meme.
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Who were you with yesterday?  My kids.

What woke you up this morning?  My kids.  One of them had a friend sleep over.

Where are you?  The office.

Is tomorrow going to be a good day?  You bet’cha.

What’s on your mind RIGHT NOW?  These questions.

Do you listen to music every day?  Nope, but I listen to gossip talk radio.

Are you a fast typer?  Pretty fast.

Whats your favorite type of soda?  Do you mean pop?  My favorite pop is Diet Coke.  ;-)

Have you ever won an award?  A couple non-official ones.  I’ve got lots of medals from races I’ve run.  Even a couple that I placed 1st, 2nd or 3rd.

Are you listening to music right now?  Nope, I hear my kids playing Minecraft together.

How long ’till your birthday?  7 months.

Do you use ebay to buy or sell?  I’ve used it for both.  But I tend to do a little more buying.  I’m a shopper.

Who makes you mad?  Mean people, rude people, bullies, bigots.

What do you do when you’re mad?  Swear.

Do certain songs make you cry?  A few do.

Are you usually a happy person?  I try to be.

What makes you the happiest?  Seeing my kids happy.

Do you believe in yourself?  Sometimes, sometimes not.  Depends on the day and how I feel.

Thank you, Great Spirit.